Being multi-cultural may bring you on journey of finding your own truth, as it did for our Ghanan-Japanese guest. His courage to delve in deep and travel the world brought out his transformational and healing wisdom. Enjoy.
An inner knowing urged my guest Kute Blackson to leave for the US to find his own truth, despite growing up as the son of a Ghanan minister and a spiritual Japanese mother. Since then he traveled the world to hone his craft and to meet wisdom keepers. Enjoy.
Learn more about Kute Blackson on his website: https://kuteblackson.com
Listen to his podcast Soultalk here: https://kuteblackson.com/soultalk
Find his book 'The Magic Of Surrender' here and view your gifts: https://kuteblackson.com/products/themagicofsurrender
Here is where you find the Reinvent Seminar: https://kuteblackson.com/reinventseminar
Experience Kute on Bali: https://www.boundlessblissbali.com
Watch the video of Episode 80 with Kute Blackson on our YouTube channel Moving To Oneness: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzEWKXR957EmpmXvG9Ygbhw
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[00:00:47] Meilin Ehlke:
It's a beautiful day to surrender, to go with the flow and to let yourself be carried wherever the world takes you. Hello, I am Meilin, your host of the Moving To Oneness podcast. And today I have a fascinating guest sitting in Los Angeles, California. Who's living in every second, the vastness of himself, with an interplay of the world around. And the best part he has done it all over the world because he loves to travel, meet people and explore the landscapes around him. So, please welcome with me Kute Blackson. Hello, how are you today?
[00:01:39] Kute Blackson:
Hi there. Thanks for having me. I've been looking forward to the interview. Tremendously. It is good to be here.
[00:01:44] Meilin Ehlke:
Oh, thank you very much. Yeah. I love your way of being in the moment. That's something I speak a lot about too, right? Because then we can let ourselves be surprised to let other things unfold, that we can't even fathom or imagine. And I think, that is what makes out life.
[00:02:07] Kute Blackson: Hmm.
[00:02:07] Meilin Ehlke:
Share how you got to become so thirsty for these experiences to be one with everything.
[00:02:20] Kute Blackson:
Yeah, I think growing up. Look, I was born in Ghana, west Africa. My father's from Ghana. My mother's Japanese. I grew up in London. The US, now partly Mexico also. I always felt like a citizen of the world. And from a very young age I was a very empathetic kid. And so, I would feel people's suffering very deeply and there was always a desire beyond my conscious awareness to alleviate evil suffering, I want it to alleviate it.
And I was six, seven years old and I didn't know what form that would take, but it was an impulse inside. I felt people. And so I think I, because I grew up in a very, shall we say mystical, some would say spiritual environment. Now at the time, it didn't seem unusual. At the time, it seemed very normal. It was all I knew. And so for me, my first memories as a young boy was, for instance, being a chubby kid lost in the crowd and seeing a crippled woman who couldn't walk or couldn't stand. She picks up the sand, that this man walks on, wipes it on her face and stands up. And so, I grew up seeing blind people see and deaf people hear and people stand up out of wheelchairs. You could say miracles, the type of stuff that you see on TV and wonder, is this real.
And so, I grew up seeing it and didn't think anything unusual of it, anything special about it. It just was what it was. There was always that sense of no limits of everything is possible, that I had growing up as a child.
[00:04:02] Meilin Ehlke: Wow.
[00:04:03] Kute Blackson:
That sense of possibility because when you see blind people seeing, if you see people stand up out of wheelchairs, it's like, sure, why not? Where are the limitations? And so for me, a part of that, I think conscious questioning in life came.
By the way, the man who essentially picked up, that woman was my father. My father built 300 churches in Ghana, West Africa, and he was a very mystical, spiritual guy.
[00:04:30] Meilin Ehlke: He's called like a magician himself, right?
[00:04:33] Kute Blackson: Yeah. Not a magician.
[00:04:35] Meilin Ehlke:
But in changing peoples form as in a fantastic healer. That's what I understand.
[00:04:41] Kute Blackson: A Miracle man, so to speak. And so, the interesting thing was on his bookshelf he had thousands of books. On his bookshelf he had everyone from the Eastern mystics people like Krishna Murti and, you know, Muktananda, all these different books to [00:05:00] the Western mystics of Blavatsky, Joe Goldsmith, Joseph Murphy, Unity, Sense of Mind, to Go Jeff to Jo Spenzki to the Western sort of pop psychology, self-help gurus Wayne Dyer, Louise hay, and Deepak Chopra.
As a kid, I was exposed to that. As a kid I grew up reading some of this stuff. But for me in my father's church, his congregation was let's say, not very educated and not very wealthy, so they didn't have a lot. But even though they didn't have very much, they seem to be so fulfilled and happy. They had every reason to not be happy, but they were happy even though they didn't have anything.
And then I went to a school where I got a scholarship. I didn't come from very much wealth. And so I got a scholarship to this very prestigious school, where Presidents' sons, Prime Minister's kids, politicians' kids, billionaires' kids went. And so now, I was around people, that had every reason to be happy and yet they were still miserable.
And so, that began as a young boy a questioning. What the hell is this life? What's the purpose of life, when people who have every reason to be happy are miserable, and people who have every reason to not be happy, are foreseen fulfilled. What is the purpose of life? Is it just to wake up, go to sleep, make money, make babies, buy a house, go on vacation, buy some stuff, to have a bank account and then die? Like surely there has to be more to the purpose of this existence?
[00:06:25] Meilin Ehlke: There has to be more.
[00:06:25] Kute Blackson:
What is it? Because I saw people. I would go to their homes, my friend's homes and their parents were unhappy. Parents were miserable. And so, that began a questioning. And so that led me down a path of reading. And then I'd read like 'Autobiography of the Yogi' as an 11 year old. And then, I started to practice some of these meditation techniques, that I didn't really understand, but began having interesting experiences as a young kid. And so, there was always a deep hunger and a quest at that time seeking, like, what is true? What is the nature of reality? What is real? Who am I? Where do I come from? Where are we going? And, that was a huge part of my life. Yeah.
[00:07:03] Meilin Ehlke:
So in a way it was a gift, that you were able to do those experiences and to see these beautiful healings already as a young child. Right? That's normally the age when many get shut down, but you were able to explore, to dive in and to play with it. Right? Even whatever you read, you just experimented because there were no guidelines.
[00:07:29] Kute Blackson: Yes.
[00:07:29] Meilin Ehlke:
And so you could develop and pull out what was within you. The gift of the healer that is part of you. Right? That is growing now more and more and you are fine tuning it as you go through life.
[00:07:48] Kute Blackson:
Yeah. Yeah, I think because it's all I knew. That there was a certain limitation, that wasn't put on me. You know, like part of my path was also at age eight, I started to speak in my father's churches and give speeches. And I'm not saying I had some gift, I was just thrown into the audience by my father and words just started coming out of my mouth, that I didn't really think about or understand that seemed to inspire people. And then at age 13, 14, my father said I was going to do the healing service. And so I have no idea about healing and yet when the time came, just kind of opened myself up and stuff started happening, that I didn't honestly understand and can't take any credit for. Here's what was interesting in terms of my journey in the seeking. When I was 14, my father announced to the congregation that my son is taking over my ministry, his ministry, and the compilation about it. There was no discussion. My father's old school it's his way or it is his way, you choose which way. When it was announced and you know, there's hundreds of thousands of people who had their hopes and dreams pinned on me and I knew, that was not my right path. I knew that was not the inline path, but, and so my heart sank when I heard this pronouncement, but I knew that this wasn't my path, my entire life was set out for me, but I was too afraid.
My fear was if I truly dare to be myself. If I surely dare to own my truth, if I truly dare to communicate how I really felt authentically and live what I felt in my soul, which I didn't know exactly what it was, I just knew it wasn't that, and I felt something calling me into a different direction. I was too afraid because my fear was, if I dare to live my truth, follow my soul's essence, followed the calling that I have no idea where it's taking me, but I know it's not here.
My fear was I would be alone. I would be outcast that lives my father's love. And I think so many of us as human beings, we hold back our truth. We ended up betraying our truth, portraying your soul, betraying our spirits, betraying our deep knowing, out of fear. And, that started a whole other journey of questioning for me as well.
Something really changed to me when I read a bit about Krishnamurti. I can really relate to Krishnamurti, the teacher spiritual teacher, Krishnamurti. I could really relate to his background as to how he was being groomed to take over and be this kind of world teacher.
And it took him until he was like 20 something, 28, I think until he had an epiphany and realized hey a conditioned mind, a free mind is not a condition mind, a religious mind, a Buddhist mind is it's free and what, and then he left everything behind. And so when I read, that it started an internal like revolution inside of me, where I just knew in that moment, what I have to do, which was leave.
It just took me about four years till I was 18 to muster the courage to say, "I'm going to follow my soul". And sometimes what I found is, what your deep knowing. I think there's a part of us at the deepest level that knows everything, because at the deepest level, we're one with everything.
[00:11:02] Meilin Ehlke: Yeah.
[00:11:02] Kute Blackson:
And so, we know everything, if we allow ourselves to really relax into that deep, deep knowing beyond the mind. And I think sometimes, what our soul guides us to do. Won't often make sense to our logic, to our conditioned mind, and will sometimes be inconvenient to our personalities and our egos. And so, I felt this guidance come to America and I finally decided to follow that guidance, which meant having a conversation with my father and speaking to my father.
And I looked into my future on a human level as an 18 year old kid and realized I could follow the expected path. And be successful by everyone else's standards. But if I didn't have my integrity and I didn't have my truth, then what kind of success is that? And that you can't be truly fulfilled and happy being someone that you're not, you can't be truly fulfilled and happy and at peace living someone else's life.
And that's when I had that conversation with my father and left everything behind. Then came to the US with two suitcases and knew no one would show up, in pursuit of truth, in pursuit of answers.
[00:12:12] Meilin Ehlke:
I understand you totally. I had a similar experience. I'm like you, I knew the truth. I knew I was different but we lived in a little bit the life that surrounds us, to fit in.
Right? Because as a child you have the understanding, but where to funnel it. When you become a young adult it's suddenly, I mean, it's a logic thing. There's the urge, this storm to go out. Not everyone has it, but maybe it's this true seeker thing. Right? We have to. We're looking for those experiences to find out more. There is a knowing. There's like a drive within asking, what else is there? I had to go to the US to then and explore. My dad though is American. So I thought, okay, I get to know the other side of me. My mom always spoke when she got mad, "Ah, the Americans. You're so awkward".
I wanted to explore it and feel it. So, I lived then also 20 years in the US before coming back here to Germany. I know that urge and it's still in me. And I know it's still in you. There is this looking for wisdom, looking for the depth of wisdom of the hidden wisdom. Right? I would say a thousand years ago, everything was covered up and the landscape and the wisdom keepers they're coming out into plain sight where we can find answers and find also now people who live, what we desire to live.
What we didn't understand. I think as young people we knew we are different and that route that planed out for us by others is not ours. And to be courageous enough as you Kute to then say, no, I'm going to make my own experiences and see what is within me. What else is there and what am I seeking? So, what were you seeking? Can you remember what it was, if you go into that moment just before you left?
[00:14:17] Kute Blackson:
Yeah. I think, because I was terrified. I was terrified to own the truth because of the fear of I'm going to lose my father and lose his love and be outcast. But there came a point where the impulse inside of me was so strong. There came a point where the impulse inside of me was so strong that if I didn't listen it, sure, I could lie to myself and rationalized myself and pretend, but it was so strong that it was undeniable, that when I projected into the future of following the expected path, it felt so painful, that it felt like a soul suicide. It felt so painful, that it just felt like such a self betrayal. And I didn't know what I was seeking consciously.
It wasn't a conscious thing. And this is why I always say sometimes you don't even need to know what you're seeking. You don't even need to know where you're going in order to get to exactly where you need to be. But I think what is important is if we can just courageously just take a step in the nudging, that nudging of our soul, sometimes the nudging and the guidance of your soul doesn't happen with a loud siren belt. Sometimes it's just the subtle movement and energetic movement, like a wind, like a river floating down the banks that's so gentle that it can almost be missed. But I just felt something moving me in a direction and leading me in a direction, that I had no idea where it was going.
And so I think one of the things is we sometimes have to give up the need to know, the need to even understand, because what was seeking is [00:16:00] also seeking us from within and its pulling us. And so, I felt this pull to come to America.
[00:16:04] Meilin Ehlke: I love it. Exactly.
[00:16:05] Kute Blackson:
I felt this pull and at least consciously that pull was, "I want to come and find teachers". I don't want to come and find all these authors I'd read about. They all seem to live in Southern California. I want to come and go to the seminars and ultimately I think it was the drive to go into this field. It was the drive to understand myself. It was the drive to understand who I am through their teachings.
But I also think that. You know, as a soul, having a human experience, there was a necessary human journey, that I needed to go on through all the experiences of pain and the heartbreak and betrayal and failure and difficulty and challenge. That on one level was part of the curriculum and the classroom, that I had to go through in order to grow through, so that I could ultimately learn the lessons and realize a deeper dimension of my truth. And I look back now and see, wow, I didn't think it at the time. I thought I was pursuing the American dream. I thought I was coming to America to follow my conscious dream. But underneath that, and there was some truth in that, underneath that, I think, every situation can never experience and every relationship and everything would go through, there is an evolutionary learning, growth opportunity inside of that, on their soul level as to why we are going through that experience really, if we look with a deeper lens, if we look with a deeper awareness. And I think that's where the gold is.
And so, I realized now, that everything I thought I was seeking and was going through when going through and all the goals that I'd set were really part of the vessel and vehicle. To help evolve my soul to help evolve me into a deeper [00:18:00] realization of who I am, a deeper realization of my authentic nature, a deeper realization of my authentic truth and everything I thought was going to fulfill me, goals, dreams, wanting to be successful, wanting fame, wanting all these things, that I thought I was coming to America for.
Not that I haven't achieved some of them, but I realized now, that it was never really about that thing. It was never really about that experience. It was never really about achieving that thing. It was really about the evolution and growth and the letting go and the learning. And so when I look back now, I mean, we can go deeper into this, but there's so many things, that I wanted when I first came to the US that never happen, that didn't happen, that didn't materialize, that didn't manifest. And now I look back and I realized, wow, thank God they didn't happen because had they happened, I would probably have gotten so ego attached identified to those things that it would not have been able to evolve and grow and expand and tap into a deeper dimension of who I am.
Because when I first came to the US. Also, I went through a process of having nothing and failing miserably. The experience of not having money and having nothing and failing and basically where there's no way that you can hold on to, for a sense of identity. No way you can hold on to, for a sense of, "yeah, this is me".
This is how I based my self on my bank account on my, beautiful woman, on my beautiful car, on my big house, on my career. When all of that is either taken away or just doesn't materialize, at least for me, it forced me, it forced inside in such a way, when everything seems to fail and nothing seems to work, it forced me inside to really question like, if I'm not that, then who I am really?
If my sense of value and sense of self worth and sense of confidence and sense of validation is going to be based on achieving the things I think I need to achieve in order to be worthy and valuable and successful and confident, then if that's the case and I don't have it, then who am I?
And so, I think through those beginning years, through epic failure, epic rejections and epic disappointment, that it took me into a deep questioning and a deep, I don't want say dark night of the soul, but a real questioning where I was left naked to go, okay, I "have nothing to show for it by the world's standards". Then who am I? And what am I? So, I think really what I was really seeking without conscious awareness coming to America was that freedom. It was the sense of true freedom of the sense of who I am. And what's real. It's not based on anything I have, because I have a car, because I have a house, because I'm fake, because of any effects. And that's, I think what opened up for me in the process of coming to America.
[00:21:12] Meilin Ehlke:
Hmm. How beautiful, the freedom to be whoever you are and whatever you are. And I love that. And in your book 'The magic of surrender', that you wrote, in there you share your journey of the questioning and how you see the world and what experiences you have had, and also how long it took you to look back over and over to see who you are, and that you are moving forward to experience more and more of your freedom.
And I think what is so interesting, we're so taught to go to college, for example, and to learn a certain thing, and then to be that and excel in this. But the past you went, I went and many others of the listeners also is the path of moving forward and doing things, experiencing things, trying out things to recognize and to become aware, oh my God, this is how I am. So, it's like backwards. We have to do all these things to recognize what we have already always been doing. So we're becoming more aware of what makes us a click? What makes us a thrive? How we are happy? What way to go? So, I think when you shared your experiences, when it didn't work, I think then it was not supposed to be with us.
It would have shrunk us, it would have shriveled us. And I think sometimes the universe is enough there also to support us as it says, don't go that route, pull back in a little bit. Take some time and who are you and come out again and try that. And then there is like this forward of figuring out what am I, and what my gifts are. And then you become stronger each time in that craft. It's like honing a craft of oneself.
[00:23:11] Kute Blackson:
Yeah. Like I give you an example, when I was 21. After a couple of years of being in America, I was so sure I wanted to be on TV, have a TV show. Be bigger than Oprah. You know, oh my God, I want to be bigger than Oprah.
And I pitched the show all around town. I mean, I write about in my books and I was so attached to this idea of what I thought I should be, of what I thought I was going to be, of what I thought my destiny was. And there came a few times when I was offered shows. They came a few times when I came very close. They came a few times when I signed deals and ultimately some I turned down, something happened. I was heartbroken. I was disappointed. I go, "wow. Had I done that". I probably would not have gone as deep into myself. I probably would not have questioned myself and gone as deep into seeking the nature of my own reality of my own truth. Because at 21, 22, I probably would have gotten, so identified and attached and wrapped up into this sort of ego version of what I thought my life was.
That there may have been too much at stake for me to really let go of certain things had I succeeded. And so, I look back and I think, wow, that was grace. And so, I think sometimes when things don't happen, according to plan, its grace. It's this love of the universe. And so, in terms of surrender to me, that's part of what surrender is.
We have this idea in our culture or misconception in our culture that surrender is weak. That surrender is passive. That surrender is going to be a victim. You're going to be left behind. You won't manifest your goals, dreams, desires. You won't be powerful. You're going to be a doormat, but you're going to get less in life.
And I'm actually kind of inviting people into a new frame, into a new paradigm, a new way of looking at life. Which is yeah, what if you surrender and you didn't get less, but you got more. More than you could even imagine with your logic, with your personality, would you ego's capacity. You got more than you could imagine.
Maybe not what you expect. Maybe not what you imagined, but beyond what you can imagine, because now you're not living life from the limited sense of your own personality and ego, which is based on conditioning in the past. To truly surrender, I believe is the most powerful thing that we can do. To truly surrender, I believe is the password to freedom, the password to let's say your next level to truly surrender is the real secret to manifestation. It is of control, or I should actually clarify and see the illusion of control, the illusion that we think we're in control. You know, and I think if the last couple of years have shown us anything.
Maybe kind of showing us we're not as in control as we thought. And I think globally as a humanity, the last few years. We are being initiated by the universe, as a consciousness, as a species, into a new evolutionary way of living more in harmony with life. More in that zone, in that state of oneness with life, rather than this sort of separation based on me and life, versus life itself and being lived by life. And so, surrender is letting go off this illusion of control. Control being the master of addiction. Surrender is when we stop trying to force life, to fit into our limited idea of what we think it should be and how we think it should look.
Surrender is when we give up the idea we should be and how we think our life should be. Which is an idea I had to give up. I thought I should be best and I should be that. Then there were all these things they probably shouldn't be based on my conditioning and childhood and society and what everyone else was living. That to surrender is to let all of that go to truly open yourself, to the authentic impulse of life, that is truly seeking to express. That it's truly seeking to manifest and realize that we are not separate from them. To me, the old paradigm, which I think so much of self-help and personal development, even spiritual books talk about is, what do you want? What do I want? What do you want? Get clear on what you want?
The challenge is we don't really ask, who is the I that wants. What is the nature of the I. And often, when we live and we create life, which is where I was living when I first came to the US, from this paradigm and we live on, we create life from this limited sense ofI. Ego, I, personality, persona, which is based in the past.
We often don't realize, that we are putting limitations on life. We are limiting life because the ego is not able to see the total possibilities. The infinite dimension is the infinite, unfolding and possibilities that are nature of life. We're only able to see a small piece of the pie based on our own limited lens and perspective of our own identity.
And you can manifest and create a life from the lens of the ego. It happens. We can, you can even manifest the good life that way, but it will always be, I believe a limited life in a certain sense. And sometimes I found you get, you do get what you maybe sometimes thought you wanted only to realize that perhaps what you thought you wanted was not what you really want.
It was just what you thought you wanted, based on who you thought you were. And if we're not in touch with who we are, then we don't come from what we think we want is not going to be what we really want. It's just going to be a projection based on our misperception of our own true self, our own true nature.
And often our goals will be projections of unmet needs, that weren't met from childhood. I wasn't enough. I wasn't loved. That I wasn't valued. I wasn't worthy. So, if I can just achieve that thing. And I thought I needed to achieve all these things in order to be valuable. So, I could prove to my father, that I was enough and that I was valuable that I was worthy and that I could make it.
And I realized nothing was fulfilling. To try to see fulfillment from the outside or to try to seek, shall we say, the infinite in the finite, is a dead end path. And so, I think in living the framework of surrender, the possibility of living surrender, it's a different question.
It moves from, what do I want, this I thing, that we think we are, which is rooted in separation. And it's a different question. And the question becomes, what is it that life wants to express through me? What is it that the universe life, which I am a part of, which I and my father are one, but what is it that life is seeking to express through me?
What is the deepest impulse of what life is seeking to create, live and express through me? And allowing ourselves to open to that. Open to life. Open to the universe and be lived by that. And I think then we can aline. And this is the shift that I made over the years. Then we can align ourselves with this deepest impulse of life, this deepest intelligence of life, that is living and breathing and functioning us anyway. Then we can align our actions and our thinking and our strategy and our resources and our money with that. Now we're working in alignment with nature, in alignment with the flow. And I think nature will support itself. And so, when we surrender, we take limits of life. And when we truly surrender ourselves, we are available.
We are open. We are curious. We transcend our ourselves. And in the transcending and going beyond ourselves, we open to a whole different dimension of potentiality, shall we say infinite potentiality, that can then manifest through us. So now we are open to life, manifesting through us, creating through us in ways that we couldn't even expect.
And that's when I think, we entered the zone of miracles and magic because we're no longer limited to our little separate sense of selves anymore. And so for me, that's the transition over the last, you know, 15, 18, 20 years that has happened for me of saying, okay, I'm truly open. And the transition from pushing life in a certain direction to make what I think should happen, happen to saying, "OK. Let me allow life, this intelligence, this infinite". Let me allow life to lead me. Let me allow life to show me. Let me allow life to guide me. And I think that's when we're in flow, you know, and that's when we were living in oneness and harmony with life.
[00:31:57] Meilin Ehlke:
Ah, that's beautiful. You're going to take many, many people that route. It's a step-by-step learning. It's really getting faster. Right?
[00:32:05] Kute Blackson: Yeah.
[00:32:05] Meilin Ehlke:
We have to go through this life experiences, one to understand other people.
[00:32:10] Kute Blackson: Yes.
[00:32:10] Meilin Ehlke:
Only if we experienced it, we have a true understanding. And I think, that was always very important to you, to walk your own talk. Yeah. That's a beautiful saying. And people recognize that now, also that you have done this. Right?
[00:32:27] Kute Blackson: Hmm.
[00:32:27] Meilin Ehlke:
Where before, if you would have gone on you would have been you, but you would have had no time to understand all the others that come to you. And because also again, you've visited so many other cultures to explore how they live. Right?
[00:32:42] Kute Blackson: Yes.
[00:32:43] Meilin Ehlke:
That influence, you have a beautiful story in your book about, you have a few good stories about India, but there was this wonderful one of waiting for the train, of the surrender to wait and to be comfortable and peaceful fully and do life while another life happens, while you would wait for the train, but you don't have to stop your life and get anxious. You can experience what is right here and now for me.
And it was funny while I was reading. I was remembering, we were at the airport. It was just a delay of a plane, but, and journalists was so surprised, that we stayed so calm and we sat down and we laughed and we talked. It must have done such an impact on her, that she came over and asked us why we were so peaceful.
And why we weren't? You know, we've traveled so much. We know it always starts again wherever we get to go. And then it's something new, a little different. And it made me think about that. How many people are not in this calmness, in this acceptance that everything works out. And you learn that there, I think in India.
[00:34:01] Kute Blackson: I think I learned it the hard way.
[00:34:06] Meilin Ehlke: Yeah. But you learned it, but you wanted to learn it.
[00:34:10] Kute Blackson: Yes
[00:34:11] Meilin Ehlke:
So, then it wasn't really so hard. You say that over and over, you have this curiosity that is never a stopping. I also think it is so important, that we are now who we are right now. Because what comes in the future? Sometimes I do think about the future.
What are all the preparations? That we become who we are. This is so important. And you are that now. You have become who you are and to an even finite level. I think this year and the next year, it's going to be really, even more important for all of us, to slow down and to say, what is more, and you said so beautiful that suddenly we have become so much life.
And why are we here? What are we bringing to life? And it's often, it's the most beautiful, simple thing, a purpose. It's like beauty, or you bring freedom or harmony, or balanced to the world. This is a very simple, mostly one word, why we're here on this plane and how can that ooze out of us and what is the new path to trail?
And you, Kute are someone who walks the new trails or prepares the trails for others to follow. You even got an award. I didn't even know that award existed, the Walden award for new thought leaders. So, you're recognized for changing the questions that arise and also to provide through those questionings, more curiosity in other people.
[00:35:54] Kute Blackson:
Yeah. Yeah. You know, even a question I think for people to sit with that might be marinating on the whole conversation of surrender is, if you look at all the things in your life, that didn't work out, didn't go according to plan, but consider how they actually worked out better than you thought you could have imagined.
[00:36:16] Meilin Ehlke: That is a good point.
[00:36:18] Kute Blackson:
How many things worked out better and so reflect on all those times. Wow. That didn't go according to plan, but it turned out better than I could have planned. Or someone might say, nah, but it turned out worse. Okay. It may have turned out worse, you might think in the moment, but if you look back from perspective with a little space and time and looking back five years, 10 years, then you might see how, if that thing didn't happen, that's so-called in quotation marks, failure didn't happen. It wouldn't have moved you back home. It wouldn't have moved you to a different country, which then you wouldn't have met your husband or your wife.
[00:36:58] Meilin Ehlke: Yeah. Genau.
[00:36:59] Kute Blackson:
It ultimately it's still worked out better. Or if you look back at, let's say, a practical example of a relationship, there's moments where we as human beings, we get into this relationship, and say I found the one, I found my soul mate, I am going to be with this person forever. We're going to have kids, you see you entire future. We get attached to this idea and it's, oh my God, I can't see myself being with anyone else. I found the one. Right? And we all have those moments in our lives. It doesn't work out. Then you broke up and you were heartbroken and you just felt destroyed and abandoned by the universe and never told you to find love again. And we got over it. We get over it. We grow up, we heal. This is life. We get back up.
[00:37:38] Meilin Ehlke: We are inventive.
[00:37:39] Kute Blackson:
Yeah. We pick ourselves back up and maybe five years down the road. Now we can look back and you think, "thank God that didn't happen. Thank God." Something you so wanted to happen, that didn't happen. And so, often in the moment when things don't work out, from the perspective of the separate mind or the ego, we are often not always able to see why something is happening in a given moment. And so here's what I always invite people to do.
Don't be so quick to judge or make a meaning about what you think something is in the moment, because the mechanism that makes meaning the meaning making mechanism, the mind can only make meaning based on the level of your cautiousness and conditioning, which is rooted in the past. So the mechanism with which you're going to use to interpret why something has happened or has not happened well, in and of itself be limited. So, you won't necessarily understand why something happened or didn't happen. Sometimes we think we know, but we really don't. We just have the illusion of knowing and what we think we know is not. And so when something doesn't go, according to plan, I tell people. Yeah, because what we typically do is we get frustrated. We get impatient, we start trying to force life. We scream, we try to manipulate, we do all these fancy things. We push, rather than being still waiting, being patient, allowing, surrendering. And so, when something doesn't work out, I always say, take a deep breath, step back, be still and get curious.
Curiosity is a key. Living with a sense of curiosity. Curiosity is a sense of, I don't know. I really don't know. I don't know why this is happening. I don't know why this is not happening, but trusting that there is a reason, even though we can't see it right now. So, living with the curiosity. It's the law. It's like a child, the child doesn't know what everything needs before it happens. This is why a child is surely open and available and curious to allow in life to show us.
[00:39:38] Meilin Ehlke: And happy.
[00:39:38] Kute Blackson:
But when things don't happen, we always know why it is. It means, because I'm not enough. It means because God doesn't love me. It may not mean that. It just might mean the universe is rearranging some space.
[00:39:48] Meilin Ehlke: Exactly. I speak often about this.
[00:39:51] Kute Blackson:
And so, when we live truly in the curiosity, we are then truly available to allowing life, to reveal itself rather than limiting and pushing and forcing. And so usually, I found there's a few reasons why things, maybe don't manifest. Number one, the thing that we want or the goal that we want or think we want is not truly in alignment with our highest truth, with our highest soul's unfolding.
And so, it's just what we think we want, but it's not true. The highest expression of what is seeking to happen. And so, it not manifesting can be kind of a feedback from the universe. So, rather than forcing, I invite people to step back, go deeper, be still and feel what is authentic, what is true revision, what is truly aligned so that you can bring yourself into alignment with your soul's deeper expression. Sometimes things not manifesting is also just timing.
[00:40:51] Meilin Ehlke: I was just going to say this. Yes.
[00:40:54] Kute Blackson:
It's just not ripe yet. Sure, you can eat a mango when it's green and it's hard and it's not sweet, but it's not going to taste as good. And many times we force things to be that just aren't. And so, trusting the timing of the universe and the seasons that have been around. The universe has been around for billions of years. And in trusting and waiting we can prepare ourselves. It's not a waste of time. It's an opportunity to prepare our consciousness and educate ourselves and grow. Sometimes I found, one of the reasons why things also don't manifest is, maybe we haven't quite learned the lessons, that we need to learn, where we are with who we're with in this particular moment.
And if we're souls incarnate into human experience, and life is a school, life is and every experience is part of that soul's curriculum. Then, when we really don't learn what we need to learn in a particular relationship situation, we'll tend to recreate or continue to attract those dynamics in our lives over and over and over again, like we keep ourselves in that classroom.
What we tend to do though, is we will tend to force. We'll tend to force life. So rather, than forcing things to be something that they're not, step back and go, why did I attract this situation? What is my soul seeking to learn? What do I need to see about myself? What do I need to integrate? Make peace with? Let go or heal within myself.
Because when we truly integrate, heal, release within ourselves and learn the lesson for why we attracted that dynamic and situation, that's the key that unlocks the next level of our lives. Then we transcend the experience. Those are a few reasons, why we might stay stuck or why things might not manifest, that if we can just be aware of and surrender to. Okay, let me surrender and learn what I need to learn in terms of the lesson here. And I think, that can maybe give people some practical direction.
[00:42:48] Meilin Ehlke:
That's good. While I was reading your book, I had a memory. Sometimes we experienced certain things. They prepare us, but they don't prepare us maybe for next month. And we're so taught everything has to happen so fast.
Right? But life is changing. We're all a learning. We have more time and are becoming luckily more patient. But it prepares us maybe for a year ahead or something that's a decade or several decades away.
[00:43:13] Kute Blackson: Yes.
[00:43:13] Meilin Ehlke:
So, I've experienced few things. I had to wait three, now four decades to say, oh my God, I had to read this certain article to meet this person, or become aware. Or this thought, where it had influenced me to think, or to do something else influenced me to understand something later much better. So, if we pull things also further apart, then we become also more relaxed. When you were just speaking, I was thinking we have to trust ourselves more and more and again, trust and the first inkling or the first idea that comes. Too often we just push it aside, right?
Instead of saying, "oh, no". And say, "oh, what happens, if I do follow that thought? And don't do that, or be honest and say, let's meet in an hour or not now. I don't have time now. Life then becomes slowly. And sometimes we think, "oh, I have to be now at work. I'm meeting someone". But if you maybe you want to dance because there's great song on the radio, and that you just feel like it. But you tighten yourself and hold yourself back.
If you would dance to that song, right. Suddenly you may have a lot of green light and that gets you to the meeting faster. And maybe that person says, perfect I needed my extra five minutes to finish that very important thing. Good that you're five minutes late. It always works out when we, follow our instinct or our own thoughts and become more open and then also share it with others why maybe where late. Maybe at the beginning they look a little awkward at us and say, what "you wanted it to dance". But it made you happy. It made you more creative and people will understand after a while. So, it is important, that we also open up and share more about how we are, especially Kute as you wrote so beautifully and always talk about, surrendering to the moment, surrendering to your own impulses and to surrender to what else exists and happens in the world.
[00:45:24] Kute Blackson:
Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. Sometimes the goal, that we think is the goal, that we get so attached to is really not the goal. This is why I say surrender isn't passive. It means feeling what's true. Feeling what's authentic.
[00:45:40] Meilin Ehlke: Important. Genau.
[00:45:41] Kute Blackson:
Feeling what's truly important and taking action in that direction, go in that direction, pursue that thing with all you have. Just let go of the attachment and the clingy. Because sometimes the ,goal that you think is the goal, is not the goal. It's just that necessary puzzle piece, that you need to go towards. To me goals are evolutionary and the goal will take you on a journey. A journey of learning. A journey of meeting. A journey of evolving. A journey of becoming. And that journey is a necessary evolution, that you need to go on to prepare you for the next step. To prepare you.
But when we get so attached to the goal, we're not really open and available to life. We just want, what we want when we want, how we want it with who we want it. So, when we get so attached to the goal, we end up limiting life. But if we go in the direction of the goal, without attachment, more committed to the learning and the process truly the evolution. And sometimes the goal was not the goal. It was just needed to take us there so that we would turn right.
[00:46:43] Meilin Ehlke: Like a nudge.
[00:46:44] Kute Blackson:
Yeah. But if we're not open to turning wherever, like no, the goal has to be the goal, then we'll stay stuck. And that's how many of us unconsciously, without tenacity, without ego, without control, we end up limiting life. And so surrender is, unliminting life taking the limits of law. It doesn't mean not being committed. It means being committed. It just means not being attached. Surrender doesn't mean an abdication of responsibility and it doesn't mean not doing your part. That's just laziness. It means doing your part giving a hundred percent, but again, not being attached.
I always tell people don't think, you know, what something means and be to truly surrender and be free, requires a level of giving up the need to constantly know what everything means and what everything is and the willingness to dance more in the unknown.
[00:47:37] Meilin Ehlke: Yeah.
[00:47:38] Kute Blackson:
And you might find yourself many times saying, "I don't know what this is. I don't know why I'm guided to go here. I don't know why I'm guided to move here. I don't know why I'm guided to meet this person. Something's moving me." And so, what often stops us is that constant questioning of the mind. Like that why, and it doesn't make sense and I'm not going to do it until it makes sense. Some things when we really live, surrender in that openness will only make sense after the fact. And that's when, if we live in that zone where we're opening ourselves to the unlimited possibilities of life. Yeah.
[00:48:16] Meilin Ehlke:
Yeah. So, also while you were speaking. I thought, everyone of you are worth, I mean, I don't want to even use the word worth, you are a fascinating, beautiful being.
So often we restrict ourselves with, who am I to write that person or to call them and to be invite them for a meeting or write a letter to. Right? This is so important, that we don't make ourselves small and don't put others too much on a pedestal. Right?
[00:48:43] Kute Blackson: Yes.
[00:48:44] Meilin Ehlke:
I just read something really interesting. They have now, libraries Kute, you will love that.
[00:48:49] Kute Blackson: With people?
[00:48:50] Meilin Ehlke: Where you meet a human being.
[00:48:54] Kute Blackson: Human. Yeah. I heard.
[00:48:55] Meilin Ehlke:
And you can speak with them. They have all the titles of their sickness or I don't know whatever they are as profession. And you have about 30 minutes to converse with them and learn about them. And I thought, that is so beautiful because again, that opens up so much and we're human beings and we've been so taught to be so separate, right?
And it's hard to be doing things alone. And when we notice, that there is this big interplay, and that's what you highlight throughout your book and whenever you speak about and through the surrender. That it is a dance of life, and we're all playing this together and we're here to support each other and that we don't feel so alone.
So where, if people feel alone, how can they contact you? Kute, and work with you, share that.
[00:49:48] Kute Blackson:
Sure. Yeah. I mean, a couple of ways, depending on when you listen to the conversation, my book, The Magic Of Surrender was coming out in paperback version. It's been out, but the special paperback edition is coming out May the third. So, go to Amazon. Pre-order it before May the third, if you listened to this before me the third. For those of you that pre-order it, I'm giving away a special gift. And that is, on May the seventh, I'm doing a very special, one-time only live virtual online transformational seminar. It is going to be about two hours.
We're going to dive deep on May the seventh, 9:30 AM pacific time. It's a Saturday. It's called Reinvent Life and I'm going to be sharing the seven phases of how to reinvent yourself, letting go of who you were, the old version of yourself, the past, connecting with your true power and how to share your gifts with the world and have impact.
[00:50:42] So that's reinvented life.
[00:50:43] Meilin Ehlke:
That's fantastic. I can feel it in my body. Everyone go there.
[00:50:46] Kute Blackson:
That's going to be special. Once you get the book on Amazon, the paperback version, you can go to www Kute, K U T E Blackson B L A C K S O N dot com. That's kuteblackson.com/reinventseminar. On the website, there is a section where you can just enter your name, your email, and your receipt number from Amazon, and you get access to the seminar. You get access to a whole bunch of free gifts. So, do that before May the third. My website is called kuteblacks.com. You will find my info.
If people want to do a deep dive in terms of transforming themselves, twice a year I do an event in Bali. The next one is July the 25th to August the 5th, 12 days. It's called Boundless Bliss. So www.boundlessblissbali.com and also, yeah. Check me out on Instagram, Facebook, and my podcasts Soultalk.
[00:51:40] Meilin Ehlke:
Yeah. I was going to say, everyone, about the podcast. He's similar to me. He has guests, but there are also solo shows where Kute shares his wisdom and takes you ...
[00:51:49] Kute Blackson: on a journey
[00:51:51] Meilin Ehlke:
... on a sound bath or meditation to move you forward and to free you up to be more who you are. And everyone the 7th sounds really good. If you didn't understand us so quickly or you're maybe running or walking, do go to the show notes and I'll put everything in there, so you can for sure get the information of Kute.
So, Kute before you leave. How do you see, I know it's a deep question, how do you see yourself moving yourself forward? What is for you still to be explored or discovered?
[00:52:34] Kute Blackson: You know, I I'll be honest. I don't know. Really observing, especially the last couple of years, a lot of unexpected developments in the world. I'll be honest. I really feel, that the universe is moving me forward as a spiritual entrepreneur in different ways. And so, is to really more and more take the spirituality in grounded and practicalize it through business. And so, strangely I'm getting into a lot of real estate
ventures and buying land and real estate, just very intuitively to be honest. Seeing, wow, there's a knack for it, just have a sense for it. And so, I have a vision for that, and ultimately it's a vision to ground the spiritual principles and live surrender, create living in the flow of surrender and show people that it is possible. So, there's a lot happening in the entrepreneurial space that is unfolding.
[00:53:29] Meilin Ehlke:
Oh, fantastic. Yeah. The environment also needs us to understand it and to work together with it. There was just something really interesting. Oh, I don't remember the English word. And then I don't get it in German either. I can't find it in any language then. Ah, the top soil. Yeah. So the top soil is disappearing on our planet. We do need that to live. And so, I love that you go moving into it, to observe how things are build. Right? And also to be more sustainable. So, in all of your endeavors, I wish you a lot of luck, a lot of success.
[00:54:07] Kute Blackson: Thank you.
[00:54:07] Meilin Ehlke: That you bring that into fruition and that you create magical places for an experience for people to find themselves and to live in that tasteful as surrender. So thank you very much Kute, for being on the Moving To Oneness show.
[00:54:28] Kute Blackson: Thank you.
[00:54:29] Meilin Ehlke:
Everyone do come to the Facebook group. You can ask more questions there or share a little bit of your insights of this episode, and I wish you a wonderful day. Goodbye everyone.