Endre Hoffmann's insights from globetrotting to 70 countries on 5 continents offer valuable wisdom on self-worth and transformation. His personal journey of deep commitment to self-discovery and shedding limiting beliefs provides a roadmap for personal growth. He found a way to break free from societal norms and embrace his being. Enjoy...
Meilin and Endre share heartfelt conversations and personal stories that highlight the significance of self-worth and the journey towards finding one's true self. Endre's experiences emphasize the need for a deep commitment to change, reminding us of the importance of patience, presence, and the ability to slow down in a fast-paced world. This helps to cultivate authenticity, navigate challenges, or contribute positively to yourself and others. You can find encouragement in Endre's journey, learning to let go of self-doubt and create a life filled with purpose and fulfillment.
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00:00:41 - Meilin Ehlke
You may be hesitant in really following your dream and being free enough to choose what you desire or act on what you desire. No more. Because there is no limitation. And my guess, today is like a reset button for you. I really love that you said that just as we were prepping for this episode today. So. Hello everyone. I'm Mylene Elke, your host of the Moving to Oneness podcast. And today I have someone here for you from Hungary who has really searched around the globe for answers of a self worth. And I'll do a little spoiler. He's been on all five continents, 70 countries to find the truth for himself in different cultures and much more. So please let's welcome Andre Hoffman from Hungary. Thank you for being on this podcast. Moving to oneness in bringing your limitlessness along and all the tips of self worth. How we can up that again where you know, many, many, many cultures have subdued that over the last decades. Hundred years. I would even say a thousand years. So.
00:02:14 - Endre Hoffmann
Hello Andre, thanks for having me. I'm really excited to contribute and inspire and maybe wake up some people who are living a life less than optimal or with too many things to put up with. And I believe that people do sometimes need an actual big red reset button to restart. I think I've seen so many people living half live life almost having conditioning early on in life and, and living so limited. And then comes one point. Usually it's midlife crisis. Sometimes well before or well after. I've seen people at the 70s and 80s to wake up.
00:03:20 - Meilin Ehlke
Yeah. What does the wake up mean? Give it other words. Because sometimes people wake up, they know they want to do something different. Do they want to leave a legacy? Do they want to have a reason that they have lived if it's later or is it there is an inner drive for younger generations when it's. When you're in, I don't know, your 20s, 30s, before the midlife crisis hits, what would you say?
00:03:52 - Endre Hoffmann
I think it's not time specific. Probably it's more to the individual's journey and awareness. I see that many times it does take some kind of a crash or breakdown for people to wake up. There is a wonderful intro to this idea. I think that that's the only film that you must have seen. It's Wayne Dyer's the Shift. That movie has. I think the first sentence in the movie it says something like the programs, the, the rules and, and laws and principles that worked for you in the Morning of Life. Stepping into the afternoon, you find they all seem to fail and not bring results anymore. And I think that's what I call awakening moment. Where we brought something from the past, unaware with how we were brought up. Values, habits, behaviors, attitudes. And the system starts to crack, relationships start to break, money, health starts to collapse. And the truth has to come up because I believe we are all here to be on this amazing journey to learn about ourselves or who we are. And I think we need some pain to wake up from the slumber, wake up from sleep, wake up from unawareness.
00:05:38 - Meilin Ehlke
Yeah.
00:05:39 - Endre Hoffmann
Which is crisis most of the time.
00:05:43 - Meilin Ehlke
Yeah. And crisis can be a hit like boom. Right. Maybe you lose a job, you're left from a partner, you have an accident. Then maybe social crashes, right. Economic crashes. Then there could be, I don't know, long term where you slowly, slowly and you cannot do no more. It's like if you don't do now change, I'm gonna die. It's a feeling like explosion if you don't act on your own truth. So your self worth, if I understand correctly, is really living one's own and laying off all those rules, let's say them, cultural, social, where one has made oneself fit in. I've done that. You have done that. You travel because of that. You wanted to break out of an extreme system. You grew up as a child, you also had a father that was rather strict, if I understand correctly. And then also just the freedom that you were able to go across the border and then explore the world where others had the ability to explore the world. We're not caged in, in a way by politics. Right. But you went out then and wanted to get to know other cultures, also other landscapes. Because I sensed you also very connected to landscapes. Yeah. And to find that information for you, can you tell me what was the, for you, the biggest oomph, why you then moved there had to be like a oomph where you said now I have to go. Because you live then in many cultures, Ireland, New Zealand, Australia, before you just turn back here to Europe two years ago. But what, what was there was. Can you remember? That was a while back, but can you remember?
00:08:02 - Endre Hoffmann
Yes, it was feeling low self worth, low self confidence. It was pain as, as usual, the biggest driver I believe in human behavior or whatever people do is either avoiding pain or. Yeah, in 10% of the cases it's inspiration to follow some someone's bliss or dreams. But mostly it's to do with something to run away from. And I spent.
00:08:32 - Meilin Ehlke
Oh, that's a good point.
00:08:33 - Endre Hoffmann
Most of my childhood in this, I felt disconnected from my dad. He's been quite angry at times, drinking a bit, had a few fights, physical fights, but he knew it all and, and I couldn't have a say. He's been quite aggressive at times. I was scared of him and he was able to find fault whatever I was doing. A professional criticizer sometimes I call him. And of course later on when I failed in something that I tried, he pointed at the I told you type of like it's exactly the opposite that I'm doing now.
00:09:25 - Endre Hoffmann
I'm reversing these negative down spirals of losing confidence and self worth and, and he's been pushing, putting people down around himself. He didn't trust anyone. And I felt myself fell into this game to gain his love recognition or at least to feel. Yeah, seen as, as human and, and as a son. But it seemed like I could not fit in to his expectations and, and I found that later it's very interesting. He's been supposedly proud of me. He was telling everyone about my feats and what I had done, which because I had tried everything. I've run marathons and then ice climbing and then long distance swimming. All crazy things to raise his eyebrows.
00:10:24 - Endre Hoffmann
So maybe he will say well done son or congratulations, but these two words were not in his vocabulary. So I thought maybe I have to just leave him behind and maybe the country behind because obviously I was born in communist Hungary, but the system changed at my age 15, around 1990 and you know, the borders opened and I thought I can't deal with this. I cannot win his love. And I have become very angry. I found that I was very resentful toward my dad because this is a kind of war zone where you cannot win.
00:11:10 - Endre Hoffmann
It was impossible to. He wouldn't listen, he would not open up and he knew all the answers. So he, I. He felt like he was not open to evolve or even grow or learn about me or about anyone else. He's been 99, focused on his business and, and it was not just me who had this experience around him. So, so I thought I need to find me and obviously at home or maybe in this small country, I'm not comfortable and I start a new life.
00:11:50 - Endre Hoffmann
The big reset button, it didn't go bad, to be honest. I came to realize that traveling for 10 or 15 years and living overseas and on other continents, that although I invested heavily into books, personal development, meditation, past life regression, Fire Walking on Fire, Anthony Robbins events and John demartini's Brian Tracy's programs and Somehow this, it was almost like, you know, Neo in the Matrix had this split, the splinter in his mind.
00:12:34 - Endre Hoffmann
Yeah, I, I could not get beyond myself. This trauma has been so deep I needed a big crash like hitting that literal brick wall to wake up. And that came eight, nine years ago, living in Australia where I already had two children and one of my sons were already signed, showing signs of lack of believing himself, lack of self worth. And my wife asking me, is it time for us to divorce? I said, well, I can see why you're not believing me anymore, whether I will ever change because I spent probably over $100,000, the price of a smaller property, to somehow reclaim who I was or my greatness or my genius that never came before. Over 22 years consciously working on myself and, and this leverage point in my life that the big wake up call.
00:13:48 - Endre Hoffmann
Also my health was deteriorating, so relationship with my wife, relationship with my children and my health crashing has brought that point on. That week I almost caused two accidents while I was driving trucks at night to make more money. Basically I fell asleep and I started to roll. And once I woke up in the emergency lane driving, you know, 80 kilometers an hour and I knew I haven't got much left. So I will either kill someone else, kill myself or, or do something different and, and find me because I felt inside there must be more for me in life and working for money, that was my reality.
00:14:34 - Endre Hoffmann
And always doubting myself and hating the small me who is, who is just a victim of the past and having to work hard. And I don't believe in myself, I doubt my decisions and, and, and never feeling good enough. And the inner beat up mode of I could do so much better. Comparing myself constantly to others, running businesses and careers. Oh, there's so much this quantum soup, never wanting to leave my headspace.
00:15:11 - Endre Hoffmann
And then at that point I, my, I said to my wife, look, before I answer, can you give me one or two days? Because I understand it looks like I could become a divorced dad seeing my children maybe once a week. And somehow I had, I had the balls to tell her that, look, I just won't give up. I spent 20 years over a hundred thousand dollars. I might as well stay on this path of self discovery for the rest of my life because I believe if I don't do this work, somehow I don't get to a result, then I live for nothing. Then I'm handing on the usual traumas in my family that I've seen coming from three or four generations. Yes. And I said, I will be the Transformational person. Somehow I don't know what works. But I said to her, my, My option be. I let go most of my big goals, financial and all kinds. And I said, all right, this is the single thing that I want to achieve in this life. And my option B is I will drop that at one point and I'll have a tomb inscribed that he tried until the last moment and he dropped that. This, this is the literal picture.
00:16:35 - Meilin Ehlke
It's not funny, but. But I unders. I can. I'm laughing because I understand you and there's so many that have been in your shoes or are in your shoes right now with the same thoughts. Yes. Because yeah, you know, we. If you have been looking for your own truth, the truth is not in.
00:16:59 - Meilin Ehlke
In the way like we're supposed to monetize. Right. And whatever is created in if your old systems that come from the 50s, I don't know that they were just fine tuned. They're not right. And we did never experience an upbringing like, let's say on the spiritual path. Some native cultures out of different. On different continents, right. They already respect the baby, the seeker gift that the baby is. And none of us, especially in Europe with such a broken culture, we're now beginning to repair and in shamanically.
00:17:42 - Meilin Ehlke
I remember I asked once, long time, one of my favorite teachers, and he said, you know, you have to begin with ancestral work. That's the only start to go and heal what has been or to get an understanding where this trauma comes from. And we had, you know, many, many, many of those. And how do you bring that truth then and bring it into monetary change? That is very difficult because we're not. We're humans. We're like animals. We don't really need money. We need freedom to move around. Like you did. No borders. We once did, right. You were with the aborigines. You soaked up their energy, their knowledge, because it's deep within you. And you understand them because you're the healer with inside or the shaman with inside of you. And we don't get the answers because we're not seen as that. We have the certain signs in the body, but our surrounding never understood us. And then to find the right people, it's like going into a.
00:18:55 - Meilin Ehlke
In the barn and looking exactly for the needle in the hay. That can be unending work. But it does add up. It's like slow, slow, slow, slow. And so it looks like that moment when your wife said, this can't go on like this. It's like a wake up call. You asked Yourself. And I did the same. And I said for my son, I want to live my truth. And I went under the mind, not anyone's also not in the spiritual realms, in anyone's what. And that has been also a long journey. Not easy things came to it, but the answers came. And the ability. It's like you set the reset button.
00:19:41 - Meilin Ehlke
I always say, like you're driving a. I don't know, a certain speedy car, and then you have to hit the brakes. You have to bring that momentum, that car to a standstill so you can take the seat belt off and step outside and then choose a new car. First of all, you have to be able to stand there for a moment after sitting and driving a, let's say fast car and then choosing what car of all those cars.
00:20:11 - Meilin Ehlke
Or maybe I have to rebuild my own car. And then you get in and slowly have to adjust and right until you have that momentum again and speed. And I think that it takes time. It's not a thing like this. And I'm really happy to hear that you experience. And I think exactly that experience, Andre, is what you're able to provide for people because you went through everything they probably had experienced.
00:20:46 - Meilin Ehlke
Right. And independent of what culture, because you've been in so many different cultures and got to know them, you got to know their landscape. Because we communicate so much with the landscape. And often when the landscape had traumata, which it had as well done by mostly us humans, it also reflects back that a wisdom. So I'm very happy that you decided it was a big decision and not easy, and you let someone else know who was dear to your heart. I want to go this way. And are you walking with me? And then suddenly is an invitation for a partner or children to say, yes, go and do that.
00:21:32 - Meilin Ehlke
Now we can back you up and we understand you and you go into communication. Right. So self worth is also communicating what you're built out of, what you're worth, what you think is a worth. Because worth can is a word that can be seen in so many different ways.
00:21:54 - Endre Hoffmann
Yes. I said to my wife that, look, I think there is a better version of us in as a family in the future. There is a higher, more powerful version of me who is taking a leadership position, who is inspiring others. I just didn't know how that would ever happen, and I didn't honestly believe in it. But that moment when she somehow decided to stay with me and, you know, sixth sense, probably my wife's sixth sense, said that this time probably he's gonna make some Changes. And. And I believe I had that over 100% commitment because this is the other big lever in change. Yes, is. And ask yourself, if you're listening to us, how much do you want this? That was this beautiful. I'm not too sure if Archimedes was one of. One of the Greek philosophers was teaching a student once and I think his teaching was he pushed this student under the Buddha and he was struggling for his life for I don't know, 30 to 60 seconds or something. And eventually he let him come up and he said, do you want knowledge and the truth so much that you wanted gasping for air?
00:23:41 - Meilin Ehlke
Yeah.
00:23:42 - Endre Hoffmann
This is how much you need to want it. If you want true magic, substantial breakthroughs, new awareness, new consciousness to happen. It's not just a dabbling game, which I probably was doing before I had. The other problem is, was I was loading up on iq and I come across a lot of people who done most of the programs, the books, they know they have the answers intellectually. But when it comes to living, making decisions for themselves, they can't live the iq, the wisdom that they have accumulated, they cannot apply it. And this is where I say you may need a new experience of yourself rather than learning, learning, learning, learning more, experiencing your authentic self. I love this word authenticity is really your playful self. I believe we all deserve to go back to almost childlike state, enjoy what we do, immerse ourselves in the moment. Spending time in flow, in creative activities or whatever is your forte and enjoying the moment. Ideally you want to somehow get paid for it, of course, because this balance of commerciality and money and doing what you love is, is a wonderful marriage. But if you are safe and you have got to that point, I believe you are setting up your playground for the rest of your lives.
00:25:47 - Meilin Ehlke
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Because you are the authenticity, which is also a word used in different levels. For me, being my authentic dream is the purity of my thought and my actions. Now that's not easy to do when your whole environment does something totally different to give yourself, allow yourself to try it out, to experience it. And you're so right. We have to experience it ourselves because the experiences are the biggest teachers even you know, go back to the shamanic.
00:26:27 - Meilin Ehlke
You do journeys because you every person, even though it's the same drum and it's the same as intentions, that everyone experiences something different built on why they're here on earth, that's one thing. But also where they come from, what they love to do, how our body is, what our gender is, right. What our age Is what country we come from. Yeah. If you're all in one room and everyone. It's different. The outcome even at the end. Is it even so we all set a similar intention and that is difficult. That's what we're teaching. I think that's what we're also here to teach is that you can take that time to do that.
00:27:17 - Meilin Ehlke
Because you're totally right. Seeing because you know the word worst sometimes I have to dabble with it because who says we're worth something or not worth something? So this is more an outside thing. If we go with star nations or we look at nature. No one says you are. This tree is not as much worse as that tree over there. As nature does to itself. Speaking to itself or animals. They don't. We humans have that. So it comes from judgment. But if I look into the non material you go with Starnes. There is no judgment. And we are also moving away from judgment. And it is really hard. So I mean now end of my 50s, I have experienced it over and over. And letting go of those, transforming them and having enough experiences that they don't face me anymore. That's difficult. It has been a very rough trip and has especially as you said because it goes into everything we live into being parent, being a partner, being a child, oneself. Right. How do I being a sister, how I go to the bakery, how do I treat people that live outside I meet while I walk around and then into a business.
00:28:47 - Meilin Ehlke
And the more I've learned, I become who I am. Understanding that now that is another big point. Right in and understanding what I am and what I'm bringing. Then honing that craft, looking for the right. That's been like looking in a haystack. Where are the people that are similar to me have experienced that you had to look around the different continents as well like you have. But it comes when it. When I'm ready. So you can't even say boop. I pushed the button and it all comes flying.
00:29:26 - Meilin Ehlke
It is this self growth development. The body has to change. The cells have to change. Some cells we have from infantry that got. You know. My mom also escaped from the east block countries. So something was inner and I had to. That was. I carried along. And it takes ages. It's in the bones. Until those cells are able to change or rejuvenate themselves or regenerate themselves.
00:29:58 - Meilin Ehlke
That's the word I was looking for. So there's so many things and unless you're lucky you will be brought it up and you really look out for your Children, I love that. But before I go back to the children and that you really also decided to be yourself so they can be who they are. Because when we change, they have the space, right. It goes automatic. The partner, the family, they all change. Then the right people come to us, to clients. You don't even have to do marketing. They feel you, they find you like the right teachers.
00:30:35 - Meilin Ehlke
Also the right clients suddenly appear. That's what I've learned in. In in life. And they fit right in into the wheel one has created the spiral, the way of living. And again. But it's always a new testing. I am still pure. Is my thought pure? Am I doing what I'm here to do on this earth, right. Not what society tells me to do. That's a hard way. We're all moving there. But you are also a forerunner, right in experiencing and sharing that and helping people now move into that.
00:31:19 - Meilin Ehlke
And you're like, I don't know. A rock is not a word. They can hold on while they experience. I don't know if you use the water. What crushes in into their life. Once they made the decision like you did, there's no way back. I have to do that or not. Because it's not a halfway. As you said, it is really dedication to live what we are, to live our own knowledge, to express our own knowledge.
00:31:52 - Meilin Ehlke
So thank you for touching so many people and being so honestly in sharing your story. How difficult it is. And I think there are not many people that speak so openly about it, but that's what's needed. So other people feel understood and say oh it is. It does take time and it's possible. And I think you show the world that it's possible.
00:32:22 - Endre Hoffmann
Absolutely. I. If you are living listening to us and you. You feel like you're living someone else's life or living your own shadow. You feel. My feeling was I'm playing small, playing safe. But your time is ticking away. And those moments that's good will add up into minutes and hours and days. You know, once you again notice what's going on five, 10 years past. And that becomes. And I found that regularly those limiting ideas about your life, whether it's. And I was. I'm sharing my ones is is working hard for money and there is not enough. There's not enough time. There is not enough money. These were coming from my grandparents in who lived through two world wars. And these were legitimate, real things. You know, in communism, things got taken away even if you worked hard for it. And working hard was a way of Life So some as you said Marlene cells, it might be connected, attached to DNA or, or, or, or really ancestry and we somehow get this, got it downloaded and, and it still needs to be cleared because you could be hanging on to your families limiting ideas or beliefs about life and, and remember if you are experiencing less than optimal results, either money or business or relationships or whatever is in your life, probably there is a root and, and, and oneness. I think this is the beauty of oneness in what you do, Mylene. If we are all one, then what is reflecting back to you that working hard for money and I cannot. This is another one big one for me. I cannot do what I love because I can't earn money doing that like that took me eight years to get rid of that idea. So, so in one way or another, what you experience supposedly outside, as we witnessed, there's no outside inside and outside is, is the same then the outside results you are receiving and you're getting probably recurringly that are bugging you, that are triggering you is some way a reflection of you, your beliefs, your self worth, your self image. And there is a way to shift that.
00:35:32 - Meilin Ehlke
Yes there is.
00:35:33 - Endre Hoffmann
And that's where your freedom lies to. And you said it's so beautifully. I think you talked about from. In my understanding there's this first stage from unconsciousness and struggling and life is hard, things are not working, relationships fall apart, you know, anxiety, fear, sadness. The second stage is having you restored to your true self. I call it true self as you without the programming of the past or your family or whatever you've been suggested to. But one step for there it becomes almost automatic, this mission. The, the authentic playful version of you who has broken into this life where there is a product, a service that's very congruent with who you are, where you feel like never have to work again. That's the experience probably that you and I have, where you just exist. Where you unfold and do what's most exciting for you every day, every moment. And that unfolds into every area of life, as you said, Marlene, where there is no separation from who you are, what your work is or who you are as a parent. It just becomes saturated in every area of life or however you show up in certain groups or events or how you choose not to. Because that could be sometimes the, the step you. You prefer. Yeah, do not engage. And, And I think why this journey is lonely and it can be very lonely as, as you step up and shift your awareness, your beliefs, sometimes it help and yes, you will probably need mentors, you would probably need coaches and healers and shamans around you. They will be your winning team and they will want you to succeed. Then what? You see that sometimes you outgrow relationship, you outgrow friendships, you outgrow people who are not coming with you. And maybe in the village or in the town I work with people who are. Seem to be the only one in. In thousands and thousands of people. And they feel like they would really have to play small and go back to their old sense. But I. I keep their light like the torch flame of the Olympics that hey, no, this is true. Hang on to that. Try and elevate these communities around you because they need a light tower.
00:38:51 - Meilin Ehlke
This is so beautiful.
00:38:52 - Endre Hoffmann
There is a reason why you are there. And if you want to think you are lost and then the region is lost, you can't, you cannot allow that. If you woke up, then don't go back to sleep because then you wasting your resources, your opportunities, your awareness. And I think that's a big gift for everyone around you. And that third stage is yes, when you are able to live on your terms. And to be honest, sometimes you work more, supposedly work more than in your previous job, but it never feels like work anymore. What is your experience, Marlene?
00:39:42 - Meilin Ehlke
Yeah, it becomes one, as I am anyway one is. There is no separation. It's not work. I am who I am then in every moment. So let's. I'm going to use my singing and the singing to change something I have been thinking about already in the news. So I do a lot of global things for humanity or the landscape or singular. But then I go to the washing machine. I have, you know, bring all my things down and on the stairway down I sing a song that changes or brings memory or I go for a walk and I think in the wind takes it. I just don't know where it needs to go. Into the world, right? Can be around the globe, halfway, it is always there. And I had to learn though, to allow it to come out whenever and not just only if there's a person sitting in front of me. This allowing oneself, trusting my thoughts, that has been a biggie because, you know, I'm not a seer. I don't hear, I'm not direct translate. So I have always to trust what comes out of my mouth, be free to speak it and not to censor myself. So these were difficult things and I had to build it up on people telling me back what some change happened with them and that these small increments helped me Giving me more allowance, freedom and exploration of myself. And then over and over and over and suddenly you know that I've learned I only paint when there's a need to paint. I don't paint, you know, I don't have a schedule. But if there's a need, then I do a painting. And suddenly that painting, even sometimes it's a year later, a half, a year later, a few years later, goes to the right person. But I don't say, do I go down and paint. It's somehow the body moves me. So I learned to follow my body, to open up when it's needed, to not do anything too. That's very important. We don't always have to do because things happen. We don't really notice it sitting in the sun. There is not this pressure of I have a schedule, I've stopped planning, I set an intention, yes, but I don't even give it a time frame, only what I would desire. And then I'm always surprised, or I've been over and over and over, been surprised. What happens if I don't plan? Because I couldn't even fathom that it would go this way or exist or right. So life then unfolds. And then I thought, okay, then I just be even more myself. So it was really a learning and learning of opening up and staying open and not expanding. And it's like with the breath, right? You take a big breath and when you're really tight, it's even hard to take a big breath. You can tell them to take a breath, but if the body can't open, you can't tell someone who the body can't open. To take a deep breath for them is like, that's already a deep breath. And you have to slowly give a time to new cells to grow, to unfold, to create space that all these different cells can find their rhythm. So at the end, I had to find my rhythm, how I function. And once I had that, then it was, how do I explain it to others? Not an explanation, but. But how do I let them have part of it? Or so they understand me because I'm so different. Luckily, I'm becoming less and less different because more and more of us have experienced the same thing. And the new generation just pops up and they are who they are. Yeah, that has been me. But at the end, it's all one. Everything is one with us. As you said, so beautiful. There is no in and out, and it's beautiful.
00:44:15 - Endre Hoffmann
I think the biggest challenge for. For a lot of earthlings, I call them because I don't like the idea of borders either and, and I had this idea that you can. I think the Aborigines you refer to that they don't have this concept of owning land. So this, this whole conflict of even what's the concept of owning. Owning a land or being in charge of the land and taking care of the land is two distinctly different things from some western thinking and control and, and allowing working with nature and, and that's certainly how I felt different from everyone else where I said well yes, you could travel around and sleep anywhere. Or I think in the Scandinavian countries it's quite normal. In even state forest you are allowed to stay. I think it's. It's how it should be to have this. This is your homeland Earth. Then passports and regulations as long as you're not harming anyone is, is making no sense to me in any way. Maybe even land ownership is. Is a bit extreme. Although I love to have my own property. But I think the biggest hiccup, the biggest challenge for most people is to. To read to come back to remembering what's without is somehow a reflection of within to take responsibility and examine and reflect on. I've been doing this for 20, 30, 40, 50 years. Sometimes I'm discovering in half an hour conversation that oh, this person just connecting the dots finally that this is coming from childhood, this is coming from grandma or grandpa. They have been doing this in some way for the last 40 years and this is why they have the fourth marriage. And it seems like just the names changing they having the same collapse of relationships. Whether it's business, whether it's personal, whether it's romantic, they are running in circles not understanding that somehow the common element is you who has been unaware and has been set to repeat the first class in school because you haven't taken on the learnings you haven't. I love this idea. My mentor told me about this once. If you look at life, your level of freedom on earth and, and how you show up this is almost like level 1, 2, 3. I don't like the numbers but. But you know in the games, in video games you have to find the keys to then move on to the next level to play life freer.
00:48:05 - Meilin Ehlke
Yeah yeah. So we have certain experiences you have were able to do or take in or embody. Right. It's like a computer game and suddenly you are in a new field. Normally it's larger. Right. And suddenly you have more input. You learn about many more new things.
00:48:27 - Meilin Ehlke
So it's a courage to explore which is really important. Setting out to be courageous. Also courageous to be the outsider or courageous to be the quiet one. When you have a face of finding out what is myself or my self worth in your words. Right. How do I see myself then? You have to go a little away from people. You can't because you have to feel even your own energy. You can't. Many of us are very sensible to the field the energetic light field right around us.
00:49:08 - Meilin Ehlke
And to say no then now I have time for myself and to learn more about myself. And it's appearing more and more and I sense the whole world is changing. And you were speaking before. I'm like you. I would love to dissolve borders with beings to move around the globe. Maybe we're also imploding. So we're becoming less and less people again. It's going that way and it was this way. So history or the new technology science is showing us that it was this way. We still have an idea of 17th, 18th century and 19th century England. I don't know. I'll just pick on those for the moment. Right. That everything went out from here. But we finding DNA, we finding structures underground. The water is moving away from some areas or ice is melting exposing so many more buildings that have much much older than we thought. Civilization is right. And around the globe. So then we can again see. No everywhere there was ancient history going 20,000 years back 50. Yeah. So and that it was an interlay. So that's smart people. And that they were all dumb like you know we're triggered and but one important thing.
00:50:37 - Meilin Ehlke
Aborigines moved all the way up here to the Finland to be with the Lapin. Right. The Sami. And also we traveled and you were speaking about the Scandinavians they moved all the way down and traveled past Persia all the way up. We moved in Africa. We were able to move much faster. Right. In the Ice Age we didn't stay up north.
00:51:02 - Meilin Ehlke
We all moved very quickly where we're able I think with eight days I've heard now to go to the African continent because it was warmer there. So we're learning so many more things about ourselves luckily now which is throwing up many many questions. And we think oh this is so much untruth. And this untruth has made our self worth has programmed our self worth of whole societies and cultures. And so it's unraveling. It's like going back unfolding. And I think we're in a really fascinating time at the moment where this is now coming back up and we can feel freer to change. There is not such much restriction anymore of not changing. You're being invited more to change and you are invited more to look at yourself and what you made up or look at your self worth, how you feel about yourself, how you live yourself. That's what I would say. Do you sense the same? Because before we spoke I thought so what is this importance of self worth about oneness? We've spoken the whole time for now in the fall of 2025, what is the importance of this? And it is really important that we become who we are and have that courage to say I am, I desire and I have a will.
00:52:48 - Meilin Ehlke
Because the will has been taken away from many of us and that's what's needed now to take also back a little bit more oomph. Men, women, children, you know, but that's a whole, we can have a whole new podcast topic. So how do you sense that now that when you've come back, how do you feel now with all of you've learned and you've developed yourself? So are you in a way bringing everything back to your home life, land and going into communication with your homeland in Hungary now? And because you have a fascinating cult.
00:53:28 - Meilin Ehlke
I've been there. The land is ancient. They're exposed. I have to say that now everyone there is millions and millions and millions of years of history is exposed in so many layers in Hungary.
00:53:54 - Endre Hoffmann
Well, it was more technical. I'm guessing that would have been probably Spain or Italy. We love the Mediterranean lifestyle of Australia. Somehow accidentally, which doesn't exist in my world, we, we bought this beautiful organic farm that we are building permaculture and, and, and we're living in a small village where we have access to land, basic resources.
00:54:28 - Endre Hoffmann
I think I'm hoping this would be the new reform or a new movement to, to look at what's true and, and you will find on the shelves you are, you are sold cheap, low quality products. And I see some major, major changes where people are again taking charge of resources. They want to have access to land and, and times growing their own food and be connected to a local, smaller community which is I believe, a gift.
00:55:15 - Endre Hoffmann
Yes, there's those old times. I believe you going back a couple of hundred years, people did help each other. They did not live in Greek housing estates and no one knows anyone. Skyscrapers, where it's faceless, where there is addiction, alcoholism, people are disconnected. I think this is against human nature to Be disconnected so much from who you really are. Yet I did have a few wonderful experiences even in a city, Sydney, where we have been able to build small, local, friendly, supportive communities. So take charge, take a leadership position if that's what it feels like. Because I think that was a beautiful 60 year, maybe 50 years study by Harvard. So if you're looking to have a long and healthy life, this study, and we can drop the link under this episode for you has been conducted. And what they found was the major, major critical thing that one thing that made all the difference in people's lives is having quality human relationships, being connected to communities, to others that help them to be more healthy and certainly live a longer, happier life. So you don't have to complicate it. And on top of that, I would say always step toward the people who are inspiring you to, to really start to spend time with those who you want to live as if they you were already one of them.
00:57:11 - Endre Hoffmann
And, and I think because we have this one, the mind has this comfort zone idea where, where you feel comfortable is probably where you are. Right. You have all these people reflecting. Think back what you believe about life. Oh, life is hard. I have to work all the time. It's stressful. Life sucks or money doesn't grow on trees. Like these are stories and, and you will hear all of these back from others you're attracting to yourself.
00:57:40 - Endre Hoffmann
Yeah, obviously the breakout is you to reach out for help. I have two page resource to not complicate how you reach out for halfload. You just look for someone who is a specialist in in shifting whatever you have struggle with. Don't make it too complicated. Reach out to someone, have a free session and see if it would fit. Then commit to it, see if it works. If it doesn't change anything in the next few months, obviously you have sabotage yourself and, and you have tried at least something to break out of where you are. Great. But then move on and never stop searching because there is another version of you are there? I can tell you now it's.
00:58:29 - Endre Hoffmann
It's the web of life. You already exist now in this future. But are you going to take steps toward that future or you just staying and slowly deteriorating? You decide that almost every day whether you reach out for inspiring conversations just listening to podcasts like this, like listen to every episode with my Lynn because in each moment you decide whether you slide back. I call this where you entertain yourself with cheap and easy things and addictions and video games and low quality stuff, food, all that or you build yourself toward who you are becoming to that authenticity. And I understand there are so many notifications, there are so many distractions today that come back to you and stay quiet to ask for these two or three hard questions. I normally come up with. Who am I? What's important for me and what is the vision of me in the future? Where am I going to? Most people have no idea.
00:59:48 - Meilin Ehlke
Well, these are beautiful tips and yes, you really are a doctor of self worth. So everyone, he was talking about my podcast so nicely. But Andrea has also podcast which is called doctor of self worth. And also now you change the name or the new one, I should say the heroes podcast where you really highlight that everyone is a hero to their life, to our lives, but also to each other's life. Yeah, because one sentence, one hug, one wink with the eye can bring change, encouragement. My life can show someone else the possibility. So I invite all of you to listen to Andre's podcasts so you can get ideas what others are going through. You also get to know other people if they're the right fit for you or if they bring an answer you're seeking to a question you have. And what also I think we didn't speak so much about self worth. Also Andre, is that when we help others, we're there for others. And I know you, you help orphaned children as well. That's very important to you. But we don't have to have a create a big what is it or organization to do that. But a smile when you walk down the street already helps. Believe me, a small conversation with someone who looks a little down next to you in the line where you go shopping, giving your time away to others, being present to children. Totally not thinking about the washing machine, especially if your mom important they can sense when you're fully there and give your presence to nature. Maybe plant a tree, plant a few flowers or just hug them or stroke them right. They can feel your energy, they bloom up and others. So this is also building self worth. I believe Andre. So do you have also another idea of how they can build their self worth by providing something to others?
01:02:30 - Endre Hoffmann
I believe yes. Bring peace and bring light. Especially when there is confrontation when you could Sometimes you just need to change some tiny things between people who are clashing and being so aggressive. And I'm not saying to to be the third one involved in a confrontation, but sometimes it's just so obvious that they are just talking beside each other. They don't connect at times you if you seek opportunities, you have more and more to be this person who Brings peace and bring squad and and yes, thanks for bringing that up. I do have this small project that's been running for over 10 years. It's called visit orphans today you can find it on Facebook. And Covid wasn't helping because this is a face to face experience. I believe we could have a so much nicer life on earth when those who are desperate who have no resources I'm talking about orphans in orphanages they could have more face to face visits. I usually when I come to see any orphanages and traveling with my family then they just stop by and ask what they need. Money seems to disappear sometimes so we just take away a shopping list and we come back with whatever they need.
01:04:06 - Meilin Ehlke
So that's a good idea.
01:04:07 - Endre Hoffmann
An hour or two and you can make a difference. You can you know set up even helping them more and talk about it, share your experiences because I can tell you will feel better your raises your level of self worth. The other way I help is because of this 34 year journey that hasn't amounted to anything. Just the last final breakout to reach and find myself worth. I wanted to eliminate the risks. I thought how could I not waste anyone else's time and money without getting results. And I believe that unfortunately this personal development market is very diluted. There are a lot of people value the best intentions probably collecting money yet they are not so committed to get you results. And and I said to myself if I was able to give someone 45 minutes to an hour and this is what I do now, it's crazy right? Then I can see, I can gauge where is this hidden block, where is the root of the challenges which they have not yet discovered and then see if we are a good fit and then either in group or one on one give them a guarantee of A to B. I think that's a responsible way to operate in helping others to, to be one of those who are not gambling anymore. And I still say regardless of whether you get a guarantee or not, although try to get some honest answers about do your research. Are they raving reviews? Are they really helping others? When you reach out to someone then move on. If it's not working yet I want to, to completely hit that reset button and say look, you either get what you want with me or you get your money back. So then it, it is really no risk. That's how I came up with this idea.
01:06:37 - Meilin Ehlke
Yeah I, I, you know I, that's a whole new podcast episode if we go into that topic but this is needed that we're there for each other and really see what is needed to move someone forward in the direction they desire. Or to also hold still and wait and not keep on running. Sometimes I think in causes, right, Your whole life history is put into the first week and then create most people. You lose so many people right there. And that is something that's also important to me. I don't want to lose people that we really become present. It's about being really present that we walk with everyone. Right. So I was lucky I had life in my life. People that weighted. So I walk much slower than others because of my cereal policy. Not always. If the mountain pulls me, I can be extremely fast. But. And they wait. And I think that we have patience, develop patience again. Develop slowing down and develop being able to stand still so everything around us and other people can catch up, can come and that we pull them in that moment. Yes, this is a beautiful way to go forward. And I think more and more people are going to go that direction because they've experienced many things that don't function and that it is being observed. What did work with myself, really going back to the experiences. What can I give? So for me, I always say, Andre, it's walking my talk. Talking my walk. Yeah. And I think many of us are moving this direction and also choose people who are doing that. If one is a client oneself. And what you do is really nice, to bring people into their own strength, that they can create their own possibilities. Believe in themselves, in their possibilities, in the ability. That's the word. Into their ability to create what they desire, more or less, when they desire. So thank you very much for doing all of that and thank you for to have traveled the world and bringing all that knowledge, that wisdom that you have soaked in or also you have radiated into all of those countries back to Hungaria and going into exchange with the land and the people and to be that radiant beacon from there and. And moving. The ability of moving change to something larger, faster, with a bigger rhythm.
01:10:09 - Endre Hoffmann
Well, I really enjoyed this conversation. I. That's just one thing that came to me while you were sharing that. Yes, we want to have. We want to pull you towards the authentic version of you. Yet I think we would be unfair to be attached to you. I want you to be aware of that. As a. There's a small story. It happened, I think, two weeks ago. Somebody came to me and he said, well, drug addiction. I had this issue now for over eight years. And we had that first conversation. And I said to him, look, this is tough. And. And I feel that you are not 100% committed. And, and I asked him, you know what, what do you hate doing? Because we want change, right? He says cold water. And. And I've seen he had this beard, big beard. I said to him, let's test you whether you really want to change or you're just saying you wanted and whether you're ready. And I said to him, no, just send me the next eight days, cold, ice cold showers and, and have that be achieved. And I'll be right working with you until we have to, to get rid of your addiction. And you know what happened? I got contact for him for five days. Never heard from him again. And that's okay? Yes, that's okay. That means 50, not clearly, not 100% committed, disappeared. I know I helped him to get outside of his comfort zone. I know that was a life changing session for free. And it's okay. His time is probably coming.
01:12:13 - Meilin Ehlke
His time is right. Exactly. That is something. A really good point. Change comes when we're ready. I think at the beginning we spoke about this, but it's often underestimated. And we have a desire, but other things have to happen within ourselves. But sometimes it's really also our environment. So don't hit yourself over your head. Sometimes it's the people around you, they have to change for you, to make the next step without you. Yeah. It's complex. And then it's really nice, Andre, to have someone like you there that sees that and gets you to observe that within yourself. Because yes, there was change and it, it will lead to wherever that person wants to come when the time is right. Yeah. So celebrate the moment again. That's what it goes down and boils back to on your journey. Little tiny steps are so important and not to be underestimated. Oh, yeah. So. And thank you very much for all of your time, your beautiful insights, for sharing your experience, for being the courageous man and opening up and for. Yeah, being here on the episode and look forward, speaking many more times with you. Time. Yes. That we are stuck together. Even though sometimes years have been in between. And that is nice. So whenever there is the time that we came together, that's how it is. So everyone be courageous. Sit down, live your own rhythm, soak in the sun. Feel what is right for yourself and try it out. Practice it step by step, little bit here and there, whenever you feel comfortable and ready. Otherwise maybe just journal about them and the energy will bring you there somehow. That's what I've seen often. And yes, I believe in you. Andre believes in you that you are a beautiful being. And we know we all are beautiful light beings. So let's all share Shine our light, be courageous to live our truth, our selfworth in the words of Andre and I'm Eileen, your host of the moving to oneness show. And I wish you all the way the best. Bye bye.